I recently wrote a post about my own personal experience with receiving weight centric compliments (in case you missed it - you can read that here). After I shared it, I was blown away by the response. Both men and women wrote to me to share their own experiences. Their stories had a similar storyline to my own and I realise that this is something that isn’t talked about enough and its something that we could all work on as a community. 


You will never be able to completely understand someone else’s relationship with their own body nor will you ever know what they feel or associate with certain words.  This can make the kindest, most loving and genuine compliment be harmful or triggering. Body/weight centric compliments reinforces a diet and fat phobic culture that has been drilled into us by the media and society for decades. Not only that, but by only complimenting people on their appearance creates an illusion that worth only comes from the outside and not from within. 


In case you're a little stuck on how to next compliment someone without including their weight or body appearance, I've created a list for you. Obviously the list is endless, but I've giving you 101 compliments to get your started! 


1. I am glad I met you
2. You are a great friend
3. You are generous
4. I like the way your mind works
5. You are inspiring to me
6. You are intelligent
7. I appreciate you
8. Your kindness is my favourite thing about you
9. You have such a strong mind
10. You have a heart of gold
11. I am grateful for you
12. You are generous
13. I love your dedication to your *insert their passion project here*
14. You work so hard and I appreciate it
15. Your passion is inspiring
16. I like your enthusiasm
17. You are so unique
18. You are caring
19. You are thoughtful
20. You are creative
21. I like how down to earth you are
22. You are lovely
23. You always say the kindest things
24. I love how witty you are
25. You are funny
26. You are a good listener
27. You motivate me
28. I like how clever you are
29. You always bring great energy into the room
30. You are special to me
31. You are so consider of others
32. I like how you are always there for me
33. I like your honesty
34. You are great at multitasking
35. You motivation to learn new things is inspiring
36. You bring magic into my life
37. I like your company
38. You make me excited to try new things
39. I like how spontaneous are you
40. I am proud of you
41. Your presence is comforting
42. You make me feel important
43. You are always so understanding
44. I appreciate your time
45. You are a good friend
46. I’m glad you are in my life
47. You are cool
48. You make me happy
49. You make a difference to my day
50. Your happiness is contagious
51. You are strong
52. You are so selfless
53. I like the way you always include others
54. I admire you
55. Your energy is contagious
56. You inspire me to be/do better
57. You give the best advice
58. I like talking to you
59. You are so accomplished
60. I like you being around you
61. You matter
62. You make my day go faster
63. I love your imagination
64. You always go above and beyond
65. You are supportive
66. You are clever
67. You work so hard
68. I want to be just like you
69. I like the way you challenge me
70. You bring joy into my life
71. I like how happy you make me
72. I admire your ambition
73. Its great to see you happy
74. I like the way you teach me new things
75. You are open-minded
76. You make me a better person
77. You have such a strong mindset
78. You are a great role model
79. I am proud of how far you have come
80. You are so warm towards others
81. You are always so vibrant
82. I appreciate all that you do
83. You are always polite
84. You are a success
85. You make me feel at peace
86. You are so knowledgeable
87. I like your independence
88. You are so well travelled
89. You are fearless
90. You keep me grounded
91. I like your compassion
92. You are a gift to others
93. I like your style
94. Your perspective is refreshing
95. You should be proud of yourself
96. You are awesome
97. You bring out the best in people
98. You are one of a kind
99. I like the way you make me laugh
100. You help me be a better version of myself
101. You are enough


Don't forget to speak kind words and think kinder thoughts today!


Stay lovely, 

Shelby x